but in a good way.
Recent conversations with my sons and a few others have revealed that I have a tendency towards actually looking stuff up for myself.
When I was growing up, if I had a question about why or how or what does this mean, most of the time the answer I was given was "look it up." So I would. As a result of this, I rarely ask for information on a topic without having first fully exhausted all the resources at hand. Now, keep in mind as a kid in the 70's and 80's, if you needed information you had to look in the World Book Encyclopedia, Webster's Dictionary, Roget's Thesaurus or even leave your house to go to this big building with lots and lots of books in it called a library. There was no Wikipedia, Google or any other online resource. Was this a bad thing? No. Did it make me self-reliant and inquisitive enough to actually do the looking myself? Yes.
The downside to this tendency is that I expect others to do the same. In this day and age there is absolutely no reason for someone to not look for answers to questions themselves. I will be the first to admit that enabler tendencies run amok in my personality. As do leanings towards wanting to always fix things and take care of the people in my life.
So this conversation sparked a bit of introspection within me:
As a Mom, I will likely never stop taking an active, perhaps over the top but done only with love, interest in the things my children are involved in. They have the resources at hand to research and they do so, but also know that without a doubt, Mom has got their back and can be counted on to answer questions or lead them toward finding the answers themselves.
Wish everyone had had parents like mine that encouraged investigative resourcefulness and self-reliance.
Thank you Mother and Daddy...I'm still "looking it up."